by AnnSheybani | Sep 5, 2014 | accountability, adventure, climbing lessons, Codependency, Courage, expectations, extreem dependency, Life, limiting beliefs, mountain climbing, Rescue, route finding, self-sabotage, tenacity
It’s been one of those weeks. Who are we kidding, it’s been one of those months. What with this broken ankle and not being able to run, I’ve become seriously sulky. I’ve found myself irritated that others can’t seem to give me what I...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 1, 2014 | all or nothing, Authenticity, Boundaries, change, coaching, connection, efficiency, expectations, grace, gratitude, guest post, kindness, Life, people pleasing, perfectionism, recovery, Rescue, Saying no, Self-acceptance, Work Less
I ran into this post a while back. It’s written by another writer and life coach named Marthe. You can read her stuff and learn all about her right here. Frankly, being something of an anxious accomplishment whore, I pretty much suck at relaxation. It’s...
by AnnSheybani | Jul 13, 2014 | assertiveness, Authenticity, Codependency, Confidence, confrontation, connection, Courage, Honesty, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, passive aggressive, people pleasing, Rescue, risk, Saying no, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem
Somebody asked me the other day what I mean when I say, “I teach women how to cut the nice girl crap.” It dawns on me, now, that I need to be more specific because ignorant certain people don’t understand the expression “nice girl,” or...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 2, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, books, coaching, Confidence, extreem dependency, goals, identity, Nathan Branden, people pleasing, process, purpose, Reading, Rescue, role model, route finding, running, Self love, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem, tenacity, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem
When I was younger, I used to look to others, mostly men, to rescue me. I was convinced that, if left to my own devices, I would make some horrible mistake and screw up my life permanently. I had no idea who I was, what I wanted or needed, or how I felt about much of...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 16, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, Daddy Hole, dating, desire, Emotional Unavailability, growing up, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, Life, love, Rescue, sex
It was the 70’s. Playboy and Penthouse were ubiquitous on suburban coffee tables, at least in the households where I babysat. My parents, in keeping with the make-love-not-war attitude of the era, kept a stash of porn star tell-all’s, Penthouse Forum volumes,...
by AnnSheybani | Jul 7, 2013 | climbing lessons, death, Denali, desire, developing world, Dinah Shore, Gail Sheehy, goals, gratitude, identity, process, Rescue, running, Second Adulthood, Secrets, Shiraz, slavery, South Beach Diet, The Confidence Garden
Because we learn best from people who understand our demons. An alcoholic is best helped by a former drunk. The mother of an autistic child needs someone who has run the gauntlet themselves. You kinda want your divorce lawyer to understand your impulse to burn your...
