by AnnSheybani | Jun 16, 2014 | adventure, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Batterson, Anne Lamott, books, choosing a mate, climbing lessons, coaching, identity, Reading, Writing
I had the huge privilege of being interviewed by Denise Brown for a column she writes in the North Star Monthly, a northern New Hampshire publication. I thought I might share it with you here. I think I sound horribly impressive.Unfortunately, the paparazzi just...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 2, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, books, coaching, Confidence, extreem dependency, goals, identity, Nathan Branden, people pleasing, process, purpose, Reading, Rescue, role model, route finding, running, Self love, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem, tenacity, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem
When I was younger, I used to look to others, mostly men, to rescue me. I was convinced that, if left to my own devices, I would make some horrible mistake and screw up my life permanently. I had no idea who I was, what I wanted or needed, or how I felt about much of...
by AnnSheybani | May 12, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, Anne Lamott, Authenticity, connection, Courage, criticism, Cultural Issues, culture shock, dealing with criticism, grace, Honesty, identity, Iran, mistakes, Motivation, risk, Self-acceptance, sex, voice, vulnerability, Writing
This week I was asked an interview question that really got me thinking: “Much of your writing is deeply personal and provocative; some of it seems almost intended to shock. Is there a cost for being so forthright?” A lot of us who choose to write memoir or personal...
by AnnSheybani | Apr 6, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, books, coaching, expectations, Honesty, Life, limiting beliefs, manipulation, rage, self-sabotage, Shift The World, Steve Chandler, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome
My mom was the queen of expectations. Despite being very helpful to me, particularly when my kids were young, her acts of service always came with an unspoken price tag. Our relationship suffered because she expected me to do whatever she ‘expected’ of me...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 30, 2013 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Authenticity, Codependency, Codependent No More, Honesty, Intimacy, Life, rage, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome
I received a comment from a lovely woman last week, which inspired this blog. …I am plodding on, getting out there, striving! LOL. Still with the same negative, self pitying man, who I live with like brother and sis now! Unfortunately I share a bed with him, but...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 16, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, Daddy Hole, dating, desire, Emotional Unavailability, growing up, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, Life, love, Rescue, sex
It was the 70’s. Playboy and Penthouse were ubiquitous on suburban coffee tables, at least in the households where I babysat. My parents, in keeping with the make-love-not-war attitude of the era, kept a stash of porn star tell-all’s, Penthouse Forum volumes,...
