by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2015 | assertiveness, cats, Confidence, Courage, expectations, Fearless Living, identity, leadership, Life, limiting beliefs, role model, self-image, self-sabotage
We have a dog named Edgar whose whole raison d’ etre is to kick cat ass. Unfortunately, we also have two cats. Peanut Butter and Mozart. Peanut Butter is a cat-hater’s cat. He’s got all the swagger of John Wayne, and the cool detachment of Humphrey Bogart. Tail up,...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 2, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, books, coaching, Confidence, extreem dependency, goals, identity, Nathan Branden, people pleasing, process, purpose, Reading, Rescue, role model, route finding, running, Self love, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem, tenacity, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem
When I was younger, I used to look to others, mostly men, to rescue me. I was convinced that, if left to my own devices, I would make some horrible mistake and screw up my life permanently. I had no idea who I was, what I wanted or needed, or how I felt about much of...
by AnnSheybani | May 26, 2014 | change, Confidence, Courage, dealing with criticism, expectations, Fearless Living, free will, identity, Life, life transitions, limiting beliefs, Motivation, purpose, reinvention, risk, role model, route finding, Self-Esteem, tenacity, voice, William McRaven
I love this time of year. All those motivating commencement speeches cropping up on the Internet. I can’t remember a single word that was said when I graduated with my B.S. in 1985. I do, however, remember the commencement speech at Harvard when I received my...
by AnnSheybani | Apr 15, 2014 | adventure, Boundaries, coaching, Courage, Life, nice girl complex, reinvention, role model, running
Here’s what I do. I help clients see their world differently. Because when you help someone see their world differently, their world changes. When someone sees the world differently they show up differently, and they create results that looked impossible a...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 23, 2013 | all or nothing, books, coaching, connection, Ireland, Nice is Just a Place in France, Reading, role model
Walt and I are getting ready to go to Ireland for three whole months, which has me feeling vaguely hysterical. You want to see my all-or-nothing mindset kick in, my NOW, NOW, NOW or the world explodes mode switch on? Come on over and sit on my couch. You may even...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Lamott, attachment, books, Boundaries, Brene Brown, coaching, Codependency, connection, Daring Greatly, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Emotional Unavailability, extreem dependency, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, Lit, love, Mary Karr, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, Rhonda Britten, role model, Saying no, Self love, Sociopathology, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, The Gifts of Imperfection, The Sociopath Next Door, Traveling Mercies, vulnerability
If I were to teach a course about overcoming the emotional damage and the misconceptions picked up from alcoholic parents, this would be the semester’s assigned reading. You’ll see me quote from these books from time to time, and I often send them to my...
