by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Lamott, attachment, books, Boundaries, Brene Brown, coaching, Codependency, connection, Daring Greatly, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Emotional Unavailability, extreem dependency, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, Lit, love, Mary Karr, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, Rhonda Britten, role model, Saying no, Self love, Sociopathology, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, The Gifts of Imperfection, The Sociopath Next Door, Traveling Mercies, vulnerability
If I were to teach a course about overcoming the emotional damage and the misconceptions picked up from alcoholic parents, this would be the semester’s assigned reading. You’ll see me quote from these books from time to time, and I often send them to my...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 13, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, dating, expectations, Honesty, Iran, love, match profile, Match.com, misinterpretation, narcissism, personality disorder, Self love, Somerset Maugham, The Moon and Sixpence
I was talking to a girlfriend the other day and I was reminded of a painful lesson I had to learn, like, 2,347 times. Her lover had informed her that, if he had to choose between her and another, he would not choose her. She, of course, had gotten her feelings hurt....
by AnnSheybani | Jun 2, 2013 | Cheryl Strayed, Codependency, Confidence, connection, Daddy Hole, extreem dependency, identity, marathon, Rescue, Self love, Wild
My friend, L, is the most “normal” woman I have ever met. She doesn’t cart around emotional baggage. Not even a change purse-full. Her decisions have always seemed so… sensible. I’m pretty sure L’s superpowers—stability and confidence—are a gift from her father. He’s...
by AnnSheybani | Apr 6, 2013 | Authenticity, Courage, growing up, identity, risk, Self love, self-image, Ted Talk
I was just listening to a Brene Brown interview in which she described herself as a child. An introverted 13-year-old, she saw Grease 25 times– a movie I paid to see 4 weeks in a row at the very same age. See, like me, Brene wanted desperately to shed her skin...
by AnnSheybani | Jan 18, 2013 | forgiveness, grace, guilt, identity, limiting beliefs, Self love, self-sabotage, Ted Talk
Like a lot of overachievers, I hold myself to impossible standards. It’s bought me a lot in life: it’s also created gratuitous stress. This morning, even before my eyes snapped open, I began rehashing all the things I’d done wrong the day before,...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 3, 2012 | dating, death, divorce, expectations, guilt, identity, life transitions, match profile, Match.com, recovery, reinvention, Self love, weight loss
Sometimes we get tired and don’t want to have to try anymore. We want to be loved and appreciated, just for being the decent human being we are. Which is exactly how I felt the year of the salmon-colored capris. It had been one hell of a “season.” I’d spent two and...
