by AnnSheybani | Sep 8, 2013 | Authenticity, Bridget Cooper, choosing a mate, Codependency, desire, expectations, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, love, manipulation, Match.com, nice girl complex, people pleasing, rage, Reading, Rhonda Britten, self-image, voice
Do you know who you are, and what you want from a life partner? Are you afraid that by voicing your needs you will drive him (or her) off? This from my friend Bridget’s new book, Feed the Need: Years ago, as I was getting back into the dating scene, I read a book that...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Lamott, attachment, books, Boundaries, Brene Brown, coaching, Codependency, connection, Daring Greatly, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Emotional Unavailability, extreem dependency, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, Lit, love, Mary Karr, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, Rhonda Britten, role model, Saying no, Self love, Sociopathology, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, The Gifts of Imperfection, The Sociopath Next Door, Traveling Mercies, vulnerability
If I were to teach a course about overcoming the emotional damage and the misconceptions picked up from alcoholic parents, this would be the semester’s assigned reading. You’ll see me quote from these books from time to time, and I often send them to my...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 18, 2013 | attachment, Authenticity, Boundaries, choosing a mate, Codependency, Confidence, connection, Courage, dating, expectations, Honesty, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, love, manipulation, misinterpretation, mistakes, narcissism, people pleasing, risk, Self-Esteem, Walt Hampton
I received an e-mail this week that speaks to so many of us raised in alcoholic households. I just went through a breakup again on Saturday. My 34th birthday. There were many things wrong. Mostly, yet again, I was giving it 100 percent and not getting enough back. He...
by AnnSheybani | May 6, 2013 | aging, books, coaching, Courage, dating, dieting, divorce, Honesty, Intimacy, marriage, mistakes, parenting, Saying no, Self-Esteem
My sister-in-law once told me that I should write a book entitled What Not to Do. She’d heard the slew of “Ann Stories” my brother liked to tell, and was horrified by my mistakes, and lack of common sense. Frankly, I think the woman was jealous of me and my big,...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 18, 2013 | choosing a mate, divorce, Fearless Living, Honesty, husband, Intimacy, life transitions, love, manipulation, marriage, Muslim, Rhonda Britten, stroke
We all have deals, you know. Some of the provisions are on the table and mutually agreed upon. Many go unspoken, particularly when it comes to getting what we want from those closest to us. By the time I was out of pigtails, I understood the expression Buyer Beware....
by AnnSheybani | Dec 27, 2012 | alpha chick, Authenticity, Boundaries, choosing a mate, Confidence, connection, Courage, dating, expectations, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, misinterpretation, Self-Esteem
One of our greatest strength as women is our softness, our femininity. All that muscle-flexing we engage in, particuarly in the work world, doesn’t buy us respect, or love, or security; it drives men away. Insisting that you can kick his ass will not get a man all hot...
