by AnnSheybani | Sep 5, 2014 | accountability, adventure, climbing lessons, Codependency, Courage, expectations, extreem dependency, Life, limiting beliefs, mountain climbing, Rescue, route finding, self-sabotage, tenacity
It’s been one of those weeks. Who are we kidding, it’s been one of those months. What with this broken ankle and not being able to run, I’ve become seriously sulky. I’ve found myself irritated that others can’t seem to give me what I...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 11, 2014 | Alcoholism, Boundaries, Codependency, desire, Intimacy, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, people pleasing, recovery, sex, Tony Robbins, vulnerability, Walt Hampton
I have a pug that turns to stone the minute I try to pick him up. He absolutely despises being man handled and will squeal like a pig. The thing is, I can totally relate to Max. There were years, and I mean DECADES, where I couldn’t stand to be touched, even though...
by AnnSheybani | Jul 13, 2014 | assertiveness, Authenticity, Codependency, Confidence, confrontation, connection, Courage, Honesty, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, passive aggressive, people pleasing, Rescue, risk, Saying no, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem
Somebody asked me the other day what I mean when I say, “I teach women how to cut the nice girl crap.” It dawns on me, now, that I need to be more specific because ignorant certain people don’t understand the expression “nice girl,” or...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 29, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, Codependency, confrontation, growing up, Life, limiting beliefs, people pleasing, rage, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome
As I’ve mentioned about a thousand times before, I grew up in an alcoholic household. My dad was a former farm boy from rural North Dakota who hated his job as an engineer at Pratt & Whitney, or, as we used to call it at home, Pratt & Whiskey. Now, I’ve...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 9, 2014 | choosing a mate, coaching, Codependency, confrontation, Courage, dating, extreem dependency, identity, infidelity, Life, love, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, risk, Self love, Self-Esteem, voice, vulnerability
Walt and I are giving a talk one evening when I meet a woman who is interested in exploring a coaching relationship. She’s impressed by the way Walt and I interact as a couple, our obvious love and respect for one another, and she wants “a look under the hood” so she...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 24, 2014 | A Love Story, books, Codependency, Confidence, Financial Health, Kate Northrup, Reading, Self-Esteem, self-sabotage
Here in Ireland I read incessantly. No sooner than I finish one book, I scan the bookshelves and grab another. For the last ten days I’ve been in total bliss, until I ran into this little number, which really pulled me up short. Walt must have bought Money, A...
