by AnnSheybani | Feb 22, 2014 | all or nothing, books, expectations, goals, Gretchen Rubin, loopholes, Reading, The Happiness Project
Any time you switch up your routine or form new habits–which is pretty much what you’ve got to do if you want to have something you don’t have now–you’ve got to overcome all sorts of obstacles that spring up in your path. It’s all well and good when you’re...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 23, 2013 | all or nothing, books, coaching, connection, Ireland, Nice is Just a Place in France, Reading, role model
Walt and I are getting ready to go to Ireland for three whole months, which has me feeling vaguely hysterical. You want to see my all-or-nothing mindset kick in, my NOW, NOW, NOW or the world explodes mode switch on? Come on over and sit on my couch. You may even...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Lamott, attachment, books, Boundaries, Brene Brown, coaching, Codependency, connection, Daring Greatly, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Emotional Unavailability, extreem dependency, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, Lit, love, Mary Karr, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, Rhonda Britten, role model, Saying no, Self love, Sociopathology, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, The Gifts of Imperfection, The Sociopath Next Door, Traveling Mercies, vulnerability
If I were to teach a course about overcoming the emotional damage and the misconceptions picked up from alcoholic parents, this would be the semester’s assigned reading. You’ll see me quote from these books from time to time, and I often send them to my...
by AnnSheybani | May 6, 2013 | aging, books, coaching, Courage, dating, dieting, divorce, Honesty, Intimacy, marriage, mistakes, parenting, Saying no, Self-Esteem
My sister-in-law once told me that I should write a book entitled What Not to Do. She’d heard the slew of “Ann Stories” my brother liked to tell, and was horrified by my mistakes, and lack of common sense. Frankly, I think the woman was jealous of me and my big,...
by AnnSheybani | Jan 25, 2013 | books, Boundaries, Walt Hampton
When I come up against an uncomfortable situation, one that requires some backbone, an ability to set good boundaries, I often ask myself, “What would Walt do?” Because, honest to God, this man has taught me a lot. He’s pretty unflappable when it...
by AnnSheybani | Jan 7, 2013 | books, Chicken Back Syndrom, connection, eating disorders, Honesty, people pleasing, rage, recovery, Secrets, voice
At some point in your life you need to accept that your feelings are as credible and important, more so, than those of your loved ones. When you ignore your feelings, your desires, they turn into secret rage. Rage turned inward begets all sorts of nasty things. ...