by AnnSheybani | Aug 16, 2015 | Adult Child of Alcholic, Alcoholic rules, anorexia, anxiety, attachment, Codependency, confrontation, Cultural Issues, culture shock, eating disorders, Expatriate Life, extreem dependency, identity, Intimacy, Iran, Life
When I turned thirty, I was angry and unhappy, but didn’t really know it. I figured that niggling feeling, the one I couldn’t really identify, the one that wouldn’t go away, was the natural result of having two little kids, too much time with...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 15, 2014 | attachment, Authenticity, Bridget Cooper, coaching, connection, Emotional Unavailability, expectations, guest post, Honesty, Life, Reading
This is a guest post by Dr. Bridget Cooper, author of Feed the Need (To Reduce Conflict and Multiply Joy) Focus, the limited amount or lack of it entirely, is the number one complaint that clients approach me with as they enter coaching. Usually, though, they...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 16, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, Daddy Hole, dating, desire, Emotional Unavailability, growing up, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, Life, love, Rescue, sex
It was the 70’s. Playboy and Penthouse were ubiquitous on suburban coffee tables, at least in the households where I babysat. My parents, in keeping with the make-love-not-war attitude of the era, kept a stash of porn star tell-all’s, Penthouse Forum volumes,...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 15, 2013 | attachment, choosing a mate, dating, Emotional Unavailability, guest post, Intimacy, Life, Match.com, people pleasing
This is a guest post by Jaimy Blazynski, The Date Doctor. Most of my life I dated emotionally weak men and never realized it. They would feel sorry for themselves, blame me for their misfortunes, resent my happiness, dwell endlessly on the past and be rude, angry and...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Lamott, attachment, books, Boundaries, Brene Brown, coaching, Codependency, connection, Daring Greatly, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Emotional Unavailability, extreem dependency, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, Lit, love, Mary Karr, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, Rhonda Britten, role model, Saying no, Self love, Sociopathology, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, The Gifts of Imperfection, The Sociopath Next Door, Traveling Mercies, vulnerability
If I were to teach a course about overcoming the emotional damage and the misconceptions picked up from alcoholic parents, this would be the semester’s assigned reading. You’ll see me quote from these books from time to time, and I often send them to my...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 18, 2013 | attachment, Authenticity, Boundaries, choosing a mate, Codependency, Confidence, connection, Courage, dating, expectations, Honesty, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, love, manipulation, misinterpretation, mistakes, narcissism, people pleasing, risk, Self-Esteem, Walt Hampton
I received an e-mail this week that speaks to so many of us raised in alcoholic households. I just went through a breakup again on Saturday. My 34th birthday. There were many things wrong. Mostly, yet again, I was giving it 100 percent and not getting enough back. He...
