by AnnSheybani | Apr 6, 2015 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, accountability, Alison Bottke, assertiveness, Boundaries, Codependency, Codependent No More, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Nathan Branden, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, recommendations, Rhonda Britten, Self-Esteem, Setting Bounaries With Your Adult Children, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem
Coaching is designed to get you where you want to go a whole bunch faster than doing it on your own. The idea being that by working with someone who has figured out how to do what it is that you want to do, you save a crap load of time, money, grief, and energy. Want...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 16, 2015 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Authenticity, Betrayal, choosing a mate, Codependency, connection, Courage, dating, Emotional Unavailability, Intimacy, Life, limiting beliefs, love, Match.com, people pleasing, rage, Self love, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem
From an e-mail I received: I just went through a breakup again on Saturday. My 34th birthday. There were many things wrong. Mostly, yet again, I was giving it 100 percent and not getting enough back. He proceeded to ruin my birthday and tell me how I felt & that I...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 16, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, Daddy Hole, dating, desire, Emotional Unavailability, growing up, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, Life, love, Rescue, sex
It was the 70’s. Playboy and Penthouse were ubiquitous on suburban coffee tables, at least in the households where I babysat. My parents, in keeping with the make-love-not-war attitude of the era, kept a stash of porn star tell-all’s, Penthouse Forum volumes,...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 2, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Betrayal, coaching, connection, Courage, desire, expectations, guilt, Honesty, Life, marriage, mistakes, people pleasing, pregnancy, rage, route finding, voice, Walt Hampton
When I was twenty-one I found myself in an awful predicament. With a semester and a half to go before graduating from college, I got pregnant. I decided that snowy January that the only logical way to handle the unexpected turn of events was to marry my boyfriend, a...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Lamott, attachment, books, Boundaries, Brene Brown, coaching, Codependency, connection, Daring Greatly, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Emotional Unavailability, extreem dependency, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, Lit, love, Mary Karr, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, Rhonda Britten, role model, Saying no, Self love, Sociopathology, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, The Gifts of Imperfection, The Sociopath Next Door, Traveling Mercies, vulnerability
If I were to teach a course about overcoming the emotional damage and the misconceptions picked up from alcoholic parents, this would be the semester’s assigned reading. You’ll see me quote from these books from time to time, and I often send them to my...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 13, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, dating, expectations, Honesty, Iran, love, match profile, Match.com, misinterpretation, narcissism, personality disorder, Self love, Somerset Maugham, The Moon and Sixpence
I was talking to a girlfriend the other day and I was reminded of a painful lesson I had to learn, like, 2,347 times. Her lover had informed her that, if he had to choose between her and another, he would not choose her. She, of course, had gotten her feelings hurt....
