by AnnSheybani | Jul 13, 2014 | assertiveness, Authenticity, Codependency, Confidence, confrontation, connection, Courage, Honesty, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, passive aggressive, people pleasing, Rescue, risk, Saying no, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem
Somebody asked me the other day what I mean when I say, “I teach women how to cut the nice girl crap.” It dawns on me, now, that I need to be more specific because ignorant certain people don’t understand the expression “nice girl,” or...
by AnnSheybani | Jul 6, 2014 | Authenticity, Confidence, forgiveness, goals, guilt, Honesty, Life, nice girl complex, people pleasing, running, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem, tenacity, voice, William James, Writing
Chemists like equations. Chemist that I am, I’m going to give you an equation I learned very late in life. Listen up, because this one affects every aspect of your life. Self-esteem= Success/pretensions William James, the father of psychology, came up with this...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 29, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, Codependency, confrontation, growing up, Life, limiting beliefs, people pleasing, rage, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome
As I’ve mentioned about a thousand times before, I grew up in an alcoholic household. My dad was a former farm boy from rural North Dakota who hated his job as an engineer at Pratt & Whitney, or, as we used to call it at home, Pratt & Whiskey. Now, I’ve...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 23, 2014 | Authenticity, confrontation, connection, criticism, Honesty, kindness, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, people pleasing
Nice girls believe that if they’re super sweet, and agreeable, and helpful, and they never argue or complain, and they take one for the team, and they go the extra mile, and they volunteer to do the job no one else wants to do, and they keep quiet, and they don’t make...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 9, 2014 | choosing a mate, coaching, Codependency, confrontation, Courage, dating, extreem dependency, identity, infidelity, Life, love, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, risk, Self love, Self-Esteem, voice, vulnerability
Walt and I are giving a talk one evening when I meet a woman who is interested in exploring a coaching relationship. She’s impressed by the way Walt and I interact as a couple, our obvious love and respect for one another, and she wants “a look under the hood” so she...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 2, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, books, coaching, Confidence, extreem dependency, goals, identity, Nathan Branden, people pleasing, process, purpose, Reading, Rescue, role model, route finding, running, Self love, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem, tenacity, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem
When I was younger, I used to look to others, mostly men, to rescue me. I was convinced that, if left to my own devices, I would make some horrible mistake and screw up my life permanently. I had no idea who I was, what I wanted or needed, or how I felt about much of...
