by AnnSheybani | Sep 16, 2013 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Confidence, confrontation, Courage, Honesty, Intimacy, Life, marriage, nice girl complex, passive aggressive, people pleasing, rage, risk, Self-Esteem, tension, voice, Walt Hampton
Want to know the secret to personal power? I’m talking Wonder Woman red-cape-wearing power. The ability to stay steady when other people—people that you love and/or need—become angry, sad, or disappointed. Particularly when you’ve (supposedly) done or said something...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 8, 2013 | Authenticity, Bridget Cooper, choosing a mate, Codependency, desire, expectations, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, love, manipulation, Match.com, nice girl complex, people pleasing, rage, Reading, Rhonda Britten, self-image, voice
Do you know who you are, and what you want from a life partner? Are you afraid that by voicing your needs you will drive him (or her) off? This from my friend Bridget’s new book, Feed the Need: Years ago, as I was getting back into the dating scene, I read a book that...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 1, 2013 | coaching, guest post, Life, nice girl complex, reinvention
As many of you know, I’m a big fan of coaching, of forming a professional relationship with someone whom you respect, someone who has already walked the path you’re about to set off on. Someone who can point out the shortcuts and the hidden pitfalls to...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Lamott, attachment, books, Boundaries, Brene Brown, coaching, Codependency, connection, Daring Greatly, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Emotional Unavailability, extreem dependency, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, Lit, love, Mary Karr, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, Rhonda Britten, role model, Saying no, Self love, Sociopathology, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, The Gifts of Imperfection, The Sociopath Next Door, Traveling Mercies, vulnerability
If I were to teach a course about overcoming the emotional damage and the misconceptions picked up from alcoholic parents, this would be the semester’s assigned reading. You’ll see me quote from these books from time to time, and I often send them to my...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 30, 2013 | Boundaries, Dan Brown, nice girl complex, parenting, people pleasing, plot, Saying no, tension, Writing, writing lessons
What if uncertainty and tension and confrontation were good things? How might your life improve if you used them as tools? If you stopped running away from them and recognized them as a fantabulous forces for change? I was giving a creative writing lecture last...
by AnnSheybani | Apr 15, 2013 | adventure, coaching, desire, expectations, nice girl complex
I’m going to say something that scares the crap out of me. Something that could draw the evil eye and smote me like Lot, the dude that turned to salt: I can’t believe that this is my life. Ten years ago, I could never have imagined the deal I’ve got going on today....
