by AnnSheybani | Sep 2, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Betrayal, coaching, connection, Courage, desire, expectations, guilt, Honesty, Life, marriage, mistakes, people pleasing, pregnancy, rage, route finding, voice, Walt Hampton
When I was twenty-one I found myself in an awful predicament. With a semester and a half to go before graduating from college, I got pregnant. I decided that snowy January that the only logical way to handle the unexpected turn of events was to marry my boyfriend, a...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Lamott, attachment, books, Boundaries, Brene Brown, coaching, Codependency, connection, Daring Greatly, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Emotional Unavailability, extreem dependency, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, Lit, love, Mary Karr, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, Rhonda Britten, role model, Saying no, Self love, Sociopathology, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, The Gifts of Imperfection, The Sociopath Next Door, Traveling Mercies, vulnerability
If I were to teach a course about overcoming the emotional damage and the misconceptions picked up from alcoholic parents, this would be the semester’s assigned reading. You’ll see me quote from these books from time to time, and I often send them to my...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 9, 2013 | Boundaries, Codependency, expectations, guilt, identity, parenting, Self-Esteem
Do you have trouble saying no to your children? Do you ever feel that, no matter how much you give or do, it’s never going to be enough? Are you sacrificing your financial health, and/or peace of mind to rescue your kids from consequences? Do you take on their worries...
by AnnSheybani | Jan 18, 2013 | forgiveness, grace, guilt, identity, limiting beliefs, Self love, self-sabotage, Ted Talk
Like a lot of overachievers, I hold myself to impossible standards. It’s bought me a lot in life: it’s also created gratuitous stress. This morning, even before my eyes snapped open, I began rehashing all the things I’d done wrong the day before,...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 3, 2012 | dating, death, divorce, expectations, guilt, identity, life transitions, match profile, Match.com, recovery, reinvention, Self love, weight loss
Sometimes we get tired and don’t want to have to try anymore. We want to be loved and appreciated, just for being the decent human being we are. Which is exactly how I felt the year of the salmon-colored capris. It had been one hell of a “season.” I’d spent two and...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 27, 2012 | Date with Destiny, guilt, identity, Tony Robbins
Yesterday I received a letter from myself. I wrote it a year ago while I was at a seminar called Date with Destiny. I forgot that I had ever written it. It made me happy because I realize how far I’ve come on the emotional front. Do you waste your precious time,...
