by AnnSheybani | Mar 2, 2015 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Authenticity, Betrayal, choosing a mate, confrontation, connection, Courage, dating, dealing with criticism, divorce, Honesty, Life, love, mistakes, passive aggressive, people pleasing, voice, vulnerability
You talk about “people like us” who hide their true selves to be loved and accepted. What about the “what you see is what you get” types who assume others play by those same rules only to be stunned when the resentful manipulator shows his true colors. Same problem...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 22, 2015 | Alcoholic rules, Anita Shreve, Authenticity, Betrayal, Brene Brown, choosing a mate, connection, Daring Greatly, dating, divorce, Intimacy, Life, love, marriage, Reading, The Pilot's Wife, trust, vulnerability
Last week I ran a post in which I listed the wonderful things my husband does for me, and what I had needed to change in my life to be ready for such a loving relationship. I got this thought-provoking comment: What about the kind of addict/narcissist that treats you...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 16, 2015 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Authenticity, Betrayal, choosing a mate, Codependency, connection, Courage, dating, Emotional Unavailability, Intimacy, Life, limiting beliefs, love, Match.com, people pleasing, rage, Self love, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem
From an e-mail I received: I just went through a breakup again on Saturday. My 34th birthday. There were many things wrong. Mostly, yet again, I was giving it 100 percent and not getting enough back. He proceeded to ruin my birthday and tell me how I felt & that I...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 16, 2014 | adventure, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Batterson, Anne Lamott, books, choosing a mate, climbing lessons, coaching, identity, Reading, Writing
I had the huge privilege of being interviewed by Denise Brown for a column she writes in the North Star Monthly, a northern New Hampshire publication. I thought I might share it with you here. I think I sound horribly impressive.Unfortunately, the paparazzi just...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 9, 2014 | choosing a mate, coaching, Codependency, confrontation, Courage, dating, extreem dependency, identity, infidelity, Life, love, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, risk, Self love, Self-Esteem, voice, vulnerability
Walt and I are giving a talk one evening when I meet a woman who is interested in exploring a coaching relationship. She’s impressed by the way Walt and I interact as a couple, our obvious love and respect for one another, and she wants “a look under the hood” so she...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 16, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, Daddy Hole, dating, desire, Emotional Unavailability, growing up, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, Life, love, Rescue, sex
It was the 70’s. Playboy and Penthouse were ubiquitous on suburban coffee tables, at least in the households where I babysat. My parents, in keeping with the make-love-not-war attitude of the era, kept a stash of porn star tell-all’s, Penthouse Forum volumes,...
