by AnnSheybani | Feb 14, 2016 | Brene Brown, perfectionism, Writing, writing lessons
Here’s a fear-based obstacle I want to take a whip and a chair to. It’s a nasty critter. In fact, this might be the biggest challenge you’ll face when writing your book, regardless of genre. It’s at the very core of why I encourage you to write the shittiest first...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 15, 2015 | Authenticity, Brene Brown, Confidence, Courage, criticism, dealing with criticism, Mama Gena, Writing
It takes guts to have an opinion. It takes guts to share them with others. To open yourself up to criticism. I don’t care what you say, how innocuous it may seem to you; someone will decide that your opinion makes you a member of Al Qaeda. That’s just how it goes....
by AnnSheybani | Feb 22, 2015 | Alcoholic rules, Anita Shreve, Authenticity, Betrayal, Brene Brown, choosing a mate, connection, Daring Greatly, dating, divorce, Intimacy, Life, love, marriage, Reading, The Pilot's Wife, trust, vulnerability
Last week I ran a post in which I listed the wonderful things my husband does for me, and what I had needed to change in my life to be ready for such a loving relationship. I got this thought-provoking comment: What about the kind of addict/narcissist that treats you...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 10, 2014 | Authenticity, Brene Brown, coaching, connection, Courage, criticism, dealing with criticism, Honesty, Saying no, Writing, writing lessons
As many of you may know, I ran two businesses before I took up coaching writers. I taught/teach writing workshops—locally and online—and I also coached nice girls (and guys) who were sick of feeling trapped by their inability to tell the truth. Who wanted to learn how...
by AnnSheybani | Jan 18, 2014 | Brene Brown, dealing with criticism, identity, Mama Gena, The Tall Poppy Syndrome, Writing
It takes guts to have an opinion. It takes guts to share them with others. To open yourself up to criticism. I don’t care what you say, how innocuous it may seem to you; someone will decide that your opinion makes you a member of Al Qaeda. That’s just how it goes....
by AnnSheybani | Aug 25, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Lamott, attachment, books, Boundaries, Brene Brown, coaching, Codependency, connection, Daring Greatly, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, Emotional Unavailability, extreem dependency, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, Lit, love, Mary Karr, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, Reading, Rhonda Britten, role model, Saying no, Self love, Sociopathology, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, The Gifts of Imperfection, The Sociopath Next Door, Traveling Mercies, vulnerability
If I were to teach a course about overcoming the emotional damage and the misconceptions picked up from alcoholic parents, this would be the semester’s assigned reading. You’ll see me quote from these books from time to time, and I often send them to my...
