by AnnSheybani | Jul 8, 2013 | identity
Do you know how to get wild mustangs to accept being penned in? You build one side of the fence and let them get used to it. Then another. And another. And, before they realize it, they’re surrounded on all four sides with no way out. I think people pleasers are a lot...
by AnnSheybani | Jul 7, 2013 | climbing lessons, death, Denali, desire, developing world, Dinah Shore, Gail Sheehy, goals, gratitude, identity, process, Rescue, running, Second Adulthood, Secrets, Shiraz, slavery, South Beach Diet, The Confidence Garden
Because we learn best from people who understand our demons. An alcoholic is best helped by a former drunk. The mother of an autistic child needs someone who has run the gauntlet themselves. You kinda want your divorce lawyer to understand your impulse to burn your...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 17, 2013 | Boundaries, coaching, expectations, husband, identity, parenting, personality disorder, Saying no, Tony Robbins, Walt Hampton, Writing
One 15-minute conversation with my mother, and I know how I got this crazy. She’s why I wake up in a cold sweat convinced that I have to organize my garage—right this second, at 2AM—even though it’s been an absolute shit show for the last six years. Why I need to...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 9, 2013 | Boundaries, Codependency, expectations, guilt, identity, parenting, Self-Esteem
Do you have trouble saying no to your children? Do you ever feel that, no matter how much you give or do, it’s never going to be enough? Are you sacrificing your financial health, and/or peace of mind to rescue your kids from consequences? Do you take on their worries...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 2, 2013 | Cheryl Strayed, Codependency, Confidence, connection, Daddy Hole, extreem dependency, identity, marathon, Rescue, Self love, Wild
My friend, L, is the most “normal” woman I have ever met. She doesn’t cart around emotional baggage. Not even a change purse-full. Her decisions have always seemed so… sensible. I’m pretty sure L’s superpowers—stability and confidence—are a gift from her father. He’s...
by AnnSheybani | May 27, 2013 | Boundaries, Bridget Cooper, Codependency, guest post, identity
This is a guest post by the world famous boundary expert, Bridget Cooper. Well maybe not world famous. Yet. But hold on. When you have boundary issues it’s a huge challenge to figure out what is your baggage and what belongs to someone else. You either blame others...
