by AnnSheybani | May 18, 2015 | Alcoholism, all or nothing, change, Codependency, connection, eating disorders, extreem dependency, Life, recovery, self-sabotage, Work Less
All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.–Blaise Pascal I was sitting in a mindfulness breakout session in Dublin last week when the leader wrote this quotation on his whiteboard. It was one of those...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 2, 2015 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Authenticity, Betrayal, choosing a mate, confrontation, connection, Courage, dating, dealing with criticism, divorce, Honesty, Life, love, mistakes, passive aggressive, people pleasing, voice, vulnerability
You talk about “people like us” who hide their true selves to be loved and accepted. What about the “what you see is what you get” types who assume others play by those same rules only to be stunned when the resentful manipulator shows his true colors. Same problem...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 1, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, assertiveness, Boundaries, Codependency, confrontation, expectations, Life, nice girl complex, passive aggressive, people pleasing
The holiday season is upon us, and I’ve been thinking about my very best survival tools, the ones I need to break out when faced with disgruntled relatives. Not that you’d know what I mean, I’m sure. Here’s one from my arsenal, which I posted a...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 11, 2014 | Alcoholism, Boundaries, Codependency, desire, Intimacy, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, people pleasing, recovery, sex, Tony Robbins, vulnerability, Walt Hampton
I have a pug that turns to stone the minute I try to pick him up. He absolutely despises being man handled and will squeal like a pig. The thing is, I can totally relate to Max. There were years, and I mean DECADES, where I couldn’t stand to be touched, even though...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 16, 2014 | adventure, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Anne Batterson, Anne Lamott, books, choosing a mate, climbing lessons, coaching, identity, Reading, Writing
I had the huge privilege of being interviewed by Denise Brown for a column she writes in the North Star Monthly, a northern New Hampshire publication. I thought I might share it with you here. I think I sound horribly impressive.Unfortunately, the paparazzi just...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 30, 2013 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Authenticity, Codependency, Codependent No More, Honesty, Intimacy, Life, rage, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome
I received a comment from a lovely woman last week, which inspired this blog. …I am plodding on, getting out there, striving! LOL. Still with the same negative, self pitying man, who I live with like brother and sis now! Unfortunately I share a bed with him, but...
