by AnnSheybani | Jan 5, 2015 | accountability, Alcoholic rules, Alison Bottke, books, Boundaries, change, Codependency, confrontation, Courage, expectations, guilt, Life, mistakes, parenting, people pleasing, Reading, Setting Bounaries With Your Adult Children
As a generation, we’ve done our children a grave disservice by continually rescuing them from discomfort, self-created or otherwise. We’ve meant well, but rather than ensuring their success by smoothing the way for them, we’ve created a herd of frustrated, young...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 29, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, books, Boundaries, Bridget Cooper, coaching, Codependency, confrontation, Courage, Cultural Issues, eating disorders, expectations, Feed the Need, Iran, Life, limiting beliefs, mistakes, people pleasing, Power Principles of Time Mastery, Reading, recovery, Saying no, Self love
This fall, my friend Bridget Cooper invited me to write the forward for her book Feed The Need, which got me really excited. I mean, I love this saucy minx’s message. If you’re a people-pleaser, this book will have you at hello. Do you know how to get wild...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 1, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, assertiveness, Boundaries, Codependency, confrontation, expectations, Life, nice girl complex, passive aggressive, people pleasing
The holiday season is upon us, and I’ve been thinking about my very best survival tools, the ones I need to break out when faced with disgruntled relatives. Not that you’d know what I mean, I’m sure. Here’s one from my arsenal, which I posted a...
by AnnSheybani | Oct 3, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, all or nothing, Authenticity, Boundaries, Codependency, confrontation, criticism, dealing with criticism, growing up, Honesty, husband, Life, narcissism, parenting, passive aggressive, people pleasing, personality disorder, rage, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, Walt Hampton
Dear Mimi, Thank you for your comment on this Youtube video. You claim that Walt is a 100% narcissist. The thing I’ve noticed about defensiveness, which is what your criticism stirred, is that it always kicks in when I detect an element of truth in what’s...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 16, 2014 | adventure, Alcoholic rules, expectations, goals, Ireland, Life, Planning, process, route finding, tenacity, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, Writing
I started working on a blog this morning while overlooking the pasture. Halfway in, I realized I’d written the very same piece a year ago. Which reminded me of something I once read: photographers have only one picture, writers have only one story. Have you...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 29, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, Codependency, confrontation, growing up, Life, limiting beliefs, people pleasing, rage, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome
As I’ve mentioned about a thousand times before, I grew up in an alcoholic household. My dad was a former farm boy from rural North Dakota who hated his job as an engineer at Pratt & Whitney, or, as we used to call it at home, Pratt & Whiskey. Now, I’ve...
