by AnnSheybani | Jan 11, 2016 | Adult Child of Alcholic, Alcoholic rules, Life
I came across the perfect statement this morning in an old journal: Stop trying to control everybody and everything. I’ve spent my life trying to control my surroundings and the people in it. Like a lot of other unhealthy compulsions, I chalk this one up to my...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 16, 2015 | Adult Child of Alcholic, Alcoholic rules, anorexia, anxiety, attachment, Codependency, confrontation, Cultural Issues, culture shock, eating disorders, Expatriate Life, extreem dependency, identity, Intimacy, Iran, Life
When I turned thirty, I was angry and unhappy, but didn’t really know it. I figured that niggling feeling, the one I couldn’t really identify, the one that wouldn’t go away, was the natural result of having two little kids, too much time with...
by AnnSheybani | Apr 27, 2015 | adventure, Alcoholic rules, climbing lessons, coaching, Confidence, connection, Courage, criticism, Cultural Issues, dealing with criticism, Iran, mountain climbing, risk, Self love, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem, Writing
When I was young, I had no idea what I thought, felt, or wanted. Pressed for my opinion, I’d make an evasive or sarcastic comment instead of deciding what it was that I thought. I didn’t want to say anything that could be construed the wrong way, or held against me...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 2, 2015 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Authenticity, Betrayal, choosing a mate, confrontation, connection, Courage, dating, dealing with criticism, divorce, Honesty, Life, love, mistakes, passive aggressive, people pleasing, voice, vulnerability
You talk about “people like us” who hide their true selves to be loved and accepted. What about the “what you see is what you get” types who assume others play by those same rules only to be stunned when the resentful manipulator shows his true colors. Same problem...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 22, 2015 | Alcoholic rules, Anita Shreve, Authenticity, Betrayal, Brene Brown, choosing a mate, connection, Daring Greatly, dating, divorce, Intimacy, Life, love, marriage, Reading, The Pilot's Wife, trust, vulnerability
Last week I ran a post in which I listed the wonderful things my husband does for me, and what I had needed to change in my life to be ready for such a loving relationship. I got this thought-provoking comment: What about the kind of addict/narcissist that treats you...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 16, 2015 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Authenticity, Betrayal, choosing a mate, Codependency, connection, Courage, dating, Emotional Unavailability, Intimacy, Life, limiting beliefs, love, Match.com, people pleasing, rage, Self love, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem
From an e-mail I received: I just went through a breakup again on Saturday. My 34th birthday. There were many things wrong. Mostly, yet again, I was giving it 100 percent and not getting enough back. He proceeded to ruin my birthday and tell me how I felt & that I...
