by AnnSheybani | Oct 3, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, all or nothing, Authenticity, Boundaries, Codependency, confrontation, criticism, dealing with criticism, growing up, Honesty, husband, Life, narcissism, parenting, passive aggressive, people pleasing, personality disorder, rage, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, Walt Hampton
Dear Mimi, Thank you for your comment on this Youtube video. You claim that Walt is a 100% narcissist. The thing I’ve noticed about defensiveness, which is what your criticism stirred, is that it always kicks in when I detect an element of truth in what’s...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 21, 2014 | anxiety, expectations, growing up, identity, Ireland, Life, parenting, personality disorder, running, self-sabotage, tension
I watch my mother get ready for work while I’m visiting her in Medora, North Dakota. At 76, she spends the summer months selling expensive trinkets in some tourist trap at Teddy Roosevelt National Park. Always an early bird, she’s out of the sack by 6 a.m. She...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 13, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, dating, expectations, Honesty, Iran, love, match profile, Match.com, misinterpretation, narcissism, personality disorder, Self love, Somerset Maugham, The Moon and Sixpence
I was talking to a girlfriend the other day and I was reminded of a painful lesson I had to learn, like, 2,347 times. Her lover had informed her that, if he had to choose between her and another, he would not choose her. She, of course, had gotten her feelings hurt....
by AnnSheybani | Jun 17, 2013 | Boundaries, coaching, expectations, husband, identity, parenting, personality disorder, Saying no, Tony Robbins, Walt Hampton, Writing
One 15-minute conversation with my mother, and I know how I got this crazy. She’s why I wake up in a cold sweat convinced that I have to organize my garage—right this second, at 2AM—even though it’s been an absolute shit show for the last six years. Why I need to...
by AnnSheybani | Jan 7, 2013 | adventure, alpha chick, Authenticity, Confidence, dating, exotic cultures, Gala Darling, Honesty, people pleasing, personality disorder, role model, running, self-image, Ted Talk
Walt and I went to see the movie Silver Linings Playbook about a guy who moves back in with his parents after 8 months in the loony bin. I know. It sounds totally depressing. (The moving back in with your parents part, which I’ve done, not the loony bin...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 21, 2010 | Authenticity, Codependency, Cultural Issues, Match.com, narcissism, personality disorder, Self-Esteem, Sociopathology, Somerset Maugham, The Moon and Sixpence, virgin
“You know,” my Iranian boyfriend said one evening as we lay squished together on his twin bed. “I don’t think I’m the kind of man who could ever marry an American. I just wasn’t raised that way. I always believed that one day I would return home and marry one of my...
