by AnnSheybani | Jul 13, 2015 | Codependency, desire, expectations, extreem dependency, identity, Life, meditation, mistakes
When I was twenty-one I found myself in an awful predicament. With a semester and a half to go before graduating from college, I got pregnant. I decided that snowy January that the only logical way to handle the unexpected turn of events was to marry my boyfriend, a...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 11, 2014 | Alcoholism, Boundaries, Codependency, desire, Intimacy, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, people pleasing, recovery, sex, Tony Robbins, vulnerability, Walt Hampton
I have a pug that turns to stone the minute I try to pick him up. He absolutely despises being man handled and will squeal like a pig. The thing is, I can totally relate to Max. There were years, and I mean DECADES, where I couldn’t stand to be touched, even though...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 16, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, Daddy Hole, dating, desire, Emotional Unavailability, growing up, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, Life, love, Rescue, sex
It was the 70’s. Playboy and Penthouse were ubiquitous on suburban coffee tables, at least in the households where I babysat. My parents, in keeping with the make-love-not-war attitude of the era, kept a stash of porn star tell-all’s, Penthouse Forum volumes,...
by AnnSheybani | Oct 28, 2013 | Authenticity, choosing a mate, coaching, Confidence, Courage, Daddy Hole, dating, desire, expectations, Honesty, identity, Life, love, marriage, match profile, Match.com, narcissism, Self-Esteem, voice
I received a wonderful comment a few weeks back, and now I’d love to take the time to respond properly. You’ve shared that you met Walt on Match. So, please also share how you maintained the endurance to keep going and not lose hope from one stereotypical online...
by AnnSheybani | Oct 13, 2013 | adventure, Authenticity, Boundaries, coaching, Codependency, Confidence, Daddy Hole, desire, Empty nest syndrome, expectations, extreem dependency, goals, Honesty, identity, Iran, Life, life transitions, marathon, mistakes, mountain climbing, nice girl complex, people pleasing, purpose, reinvention, risk, running, Self love, Starting Over, voice
Once upon a time I was an aimless girl who twisted herself into a little pretzel to win over a man. He was a decent man, with his own complexes and flaws, who led me down the primrose path into the Islamic Republic of Iran. This did not go well. As with any episode in...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 8, 2013 | Authenticity, Bridget Cooper, choosing a mate, Codependency, desire, expectations, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, love, manipulation, Match.com, nice girl complex, people pleasing, rage, Reading, Rhonda Britten, self-image, voice
Do you know who you are, and what you want from a life partner? Are you afraid that by voicing your needs you will drive him (or her) off? This from my friend Bridget’s new book, Feed the Need: Years ago, as I was getting back into the dating scene, I read a book that...
