by AnnSheybani | Dec 15, 2013 | attachment, choosing a mate, dating, Emotional Unavailability, guest post, Intimacy, Life, Match.com, people pleasing
This is a guest post by Jaimy Blazynski, The Date Doctor. Most of my life I dated emotionally weak men and never realized it. They would feel sorry for themselves, blame me for their misfortunes, resent my happiness, dwell endlessly on the past and be rude, angry and...
by AnnSheybani | Nov 2, 2013 | Authenticity, Bridget Cooper, choosing a mate, Codependency, Confidence, connection, dating, expectations, Honesty, identity, Life, love, marriage, mountain climbing, nice girl complex, people pleasing, running, Self love
Have I ever mentioned how much I love questions and comments? I do. Thanks again to Jessie for the inspiration for this post. Here’s what Jessie says: My [dating] challenge will be to find the right balance between ‘must-haves’ and ‘realistic.’ For example,...
by AnnSheybani | Oct 28, 2013 | Authenticity, choosing a mate, coaching, Confidence, Courage, Daddy Hole, dating, desire, expectations, Honesty, identity, Life, love, marriage, match profile, Match.com, narcissism, Self-Esteem, voice
I received a wonderful comment a few weeks back, and now I’d love to take the time to respond properly. You’ve shared that you met Walt on Match. So, please also share how you maintained the endurance to keep going and not lose hope from one stereotypical online...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 18, 2013 | attachment, Authenticity, Boundaries, choosing a mate, Codependency, Confidence, connection, Courage, dating, expectations, Honesty, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, love, manipulation, misinterpretation, mistakes, narcissism, people pleasing, risk, Self-Esteem, Walt Hampton
I received an e-mail this week that speaks to so many of us raised in alcoholic households. I just went through a breakup again on Saturday. My 34th birthday. There were many things wrong. Mostly, yet again, I was giving it 100 percent and not getting enough back. He...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 13, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, dating, expectations, Honesty, Iran, love, match profile, Match.com, misinterpretation, narcissism, personality disorder, Self love, Somerset Maugham, The Moon and Sixpence
I was talking to a girlfriend the other day and I was reminded of a painful lesson I had to learn, like, 2,347 times. Her lover had informed her that, if he had to choose between her and another, he would not choose her. She, of course, had gotten her feelings hurt....
by AnnSheybani | May 13, 2013 | aging, Courage, dating, desire, divorce, expectations, goals, husband, life transitions, marriage, Match.com, parenting, purpose, recovery, reinvention
Dear J, Happy 50th Birthday!!! I must say, turning fifty is distressing enough without being divorced by your husband of 26 years a few days prior. One could equate that sequence of events to being slammed by a speeding tractor-trailer. Nevertheless. Welcome to this,...