by AnnSheybani | Apr 13, 2015 | adventure, Codependency, Confidence, dating, divorce, flirting, husband, Life, love, Muslim, people pleasing, Self love
About ten years ago, I took my first vacation alone, a week-long bike tour in southern France. Despite my years as a traveling salesperson, I’d never liked going to the movies by myself, or eating dinner alone at a restaurant, because I didn’t want to look like a...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 2, 2015 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Authenticity, Betrayal, choosing a mate, confrontation, connection, Courage, dating, dealing with criticism, divorce, Honesty, Life, love, mistakes, passive aggressive, people pleasing, voice, vulnerability
You talk about “people like us” who hide their true selves to be loved and accepted. What about the “what you see is what you get” types who assume others play by those same rules only to be stunned when the resentful manipulator shows his true colors. Same problem...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 22, 2015 | Alcoholic rules, Anita Shreve, Authenticity, Betrayal, Brene Brown, choosing a mate, connection, Daring Greatly, dating, divorce, Intimacy, Life, love, marriage, Reading, The Pilot's Wife, trust, vulnerability
Last week I ran a post in which I listed the wonderful things my husband does for me, and what I had needed to change in my life to be ready for such a loving relationship. I got this thought-provoking comment: What about the kind of addict/narcissist that treats you...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 16, 2015 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Authenticity, Betrayal, choosing a mate, Codependency, connection, Courage, dating, Emotional Unavailability, Intimacy, Life, limiting beliefs, love, Match.com, people pleasing, rage, Self love, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem
From an e-mail I received: I just went through a breakup again on Saturday. My 34th birthday. There were many things wrong. Mostly, yet again, I was giving it 100 percent and not getting enough back. He proceeded to ruin my birthday and tell me how I felt & that I...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 9, 2014 | choosing a mate, coaching, Codependency, confrontation, Courage, dating, extreem dependency, identity, infidelity, Life, love, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, risk, Self love, Self-Esteem, voice, vulnerability
Walt and I are giving a talk one evening when I meet a woman who is interested in exploring a coaching relationship. She’s impressed by the way Walt and I interact as a couple, our obvious love and respect for one another, and she wants “a look under the hood” so she...
by AnnSheybani | Dec 16, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, attachment, choosing a mate, connection, Daddy Hole, dating, desire, Emotional Unavailability, growing up, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, Life, love, Rescue, sex
It was the 70’s. Playboy and Penthouse were ubiquitous on suburban coffee tables, at least in the households where I babysat. My parents, in keeping with the make-love-not-war attitude of the era, kept a stash of porn star tell-all’s, Penthouse Forum volumes,...
