by AnnSheybani | Dec 1, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, assertiveness, Boundaries, Codependency, confrontation, expectations, Life, nice girl complex, passive aggressive, people pleasing
The holiday season is upon us, and I’ve been thinking about my very best survival tools, the ones I need to break out when faced with disgruntled relatives. Not that you’d know what I mean, I’m sure. Here’s one from my arsenal, which I posted a...
by AnnSheybani | Oct 21, 2014 | Authenticity, Boundaries, bulimia, coaching, Confidence, connection, Courage, criticism, eating disorders, Honesty, identity, nice girl complex, perfectionism, recovery, risk, Saying no, Self-acceptance, Ted Talk, voice, vulnerability, Writing, writing lessons
As many of you may know, I teach writing workshops—locally and online—and coach those who want to write and publish a book. I also coach nice girls (and guys) who are sick of feeling trapped by their inability to tell the truth. Who want to learn how to draw healthy...
by AnnSheybani | Aug 11, 2014 | Alcoholism, Boundaries, Codependency, desire, Intimacy, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, people pleasing, recovery, sex, Tony Robbins, vulnerability, Walt Hampton
I have a pug that turns to stone the minute I try to pick him up. He absolutely despises being man handled and will squeal like a pig. The thing is, I can totally relate to Max. There were years, and I mean DECADES, where I couldn’t stand to be touched, even though...
by AnnSheybani | Jul 13, 2014 | assertiveness, Authenticity, Codependency, Confidence, confrontation, connection, Courage, Honesty, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, passive aggressive, people pleasing, Rescue, risk, Saying no, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem
Somebody asked me the other day what I mean when I say, “I teach women how to cut the nice girl crap.” It dawns on me, now, that I need to be more specific because ignorant certain people don’t understand the expression “nice girl,” or...
by AnnSheybani | Jul 6, 2014 | Authenticity, Confidence, forgiveness, goals, guilt, Honesty, Life, nice girl complex, people pleasing, running, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem, tenacity, voice, William James, Writing
Chemists like equations. Chemist that I am, I’m going to give you an equation I learned very late in life. Listen up, because this one affects every aspect of your life. Self-esteem= Success/pretensions William James, the father of psychology, came up with this...
by AnnSheybani | Jun 23, 2014 | Authenticity, confrontation, connection, criticism, Honesty, kindness, Life, manipulation, nice girl complex, people pleasing
Nice girls believe that if they’re super sweet, and agreeable, and helpful, and they never argue or complain, and they take one for the team, and they go the extra mile, and they volunteer to do the job no one else wants to do, and they keep quiet, and they don’t make...
