by AnnSheybani | Jan 25, 2015 | identity, Life, voice, Writing
This is my reminder that I have a voice. That sounds silly, huh? Considering I am a poet and I have a daily habit of peeling back layers of skin, exposing the rawest parts of myself on the internet. A place notorious for how it responds to vulnerability and honesty,... by AnnSheybani | Dec 22, 2014 | books, criticism, Honesty, How to Eat The Elephant, Writing, writing lessons
You know what writers and people-pleasers have in common? They’re both terrified of telling the truth. They worry that if they reveal what they truly think and feel, they’re going to be abandoned, roundly criticized, or worse. One of my goals this year... by AnnSheybani | Oct 21, 2014 | Authenticity, Boundaries, bulimia, coaching, Confidence, connection, Courage, criticism, eating disorders, Honesty, identity, nice girl complex, perfectionism, recovery, risk, Saying no, Self-acceptance, Ted Talk, voice, vulnerability, Writing, writing lessons
As many of you may know, I teach writing workshops—locally and online—and coach those who want to write and publish a book. I also coach nice girls (and guys) who are sick of feeling trapped by their inability to tell the truth. Who want to learn how to draw healthy... by AnnSheybani | Sep 16, 2014 | adventure, Alcoholic rules, expectations, goals, Ireland, Life, Planning, process, route finding, tenacity, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome, Writing
I started working on a blog this morning while overlooking the pasture. Halfway in, I realized I’d written the very same piece a year ago. Which reminded me of something I once read: photographers have only one picture, writers have only one story. Have you... by AnnSheybani | Aug 3, 2014 | Life, Writing
You get to change your mind You get to make mistakes You get to vacillate You get to take your own sweet time You get to be angry, or hurt, or sad You get to say no You get to take care of your needs You get to disagree You get to speak your mind You get to be direct... by AnnSheybani | Jul 6, 2014 | Authenticity, Confidence, forgiveness, goals, guilt, Honesty, Life, nice girl complex, people pleasing, running, Self-acceptance, Self-Esteem, tenacity, voice, William James, Writing
Chemists like equations. Chemist that I am, I’m going to give you an equation I learned very late in life. Listen up, because this one affects every aspect of your life. Self-esteem= Success/pretensions William James, the father of psychology, came up with this...