by AnnSheybani | Dec 30, 2013 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Authenticity, Codependency, Codependent No More, Honesty, Intimacy, Life, rage, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome
I received a comment from a lovely woman last week, which inspired this blog. …I am plodding on, getting out there, striving! LOL. Still with the same negative, self pitying man, who I live with like brother and sis now! Unfortunately I share a bed with him, but...
by AnnSheybani | Nov 18, 2013 | Alcoholic rules, Authenticity, Boundaries, coaching, Codependency, Confidence, confrontation, Courage, expectations, Fearless Living, grace, guilt, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, Life, life transitions, limiting beliefs, manipulation, mistakes, nice girl complex, people pleasing, perfectionism, rage, reinvention, risk, Self love, voice, vulnerability, Writing
You get to change your mind You get to make mistakes You get to vacillate You get to take your own sweet time You get to be angry, or hurt, or sad You get to say no You get to take care of your needs You get to disagree You get to speak your mind You get to be direct...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 16, 2013 | Alcoholic rules, Alcoholism, Confidence, confrontation, Courage, Honesty, Intimacy, Life, marriage, nice girl complex, passive aggressive, people pleasing, rage, risk, Self-Esteem, tension, voice, Walt Hampton
Want to know the secret to personal power? I’m talking Wonder Woman red-cape-wearing power. The ability to stay steady when other people—people that you love and/or need—become angry, sad, or disappointed. Particularly when you’ve (supposedly) done or said something...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 8, 2013 | Authenticity, Bridget Cooper, choosing a mate, Codependency, desire, expectations, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, love, manipulation, Match.com, nice girl complex, people pleasing, rage, Reading, Rhonda Britten, self-image, voice
Do you know who you are, and what you want from a life partner? Are you afraid that by voicing your needs you will drive him (or her) off? This from my friend Bridget’s new book, Feed the Need: Years ago, as I was getting back into the dating scene, I read a book that...
by AnnSheybani | Sep 2, 2013 | 10 Stupid Things WomenDo to Mess Up Their Lives, Betrayal, coaching, connection, Courage, desire, expectations, guilt, Honesty, Life, marriage, mistakes, people pleasing, pregnancy, rage, route finding, voice, Walt Hampton
When I was twenty-one I found myself in an awful predicament. With a semester and a half to go before graduating from college, I got pregnant. I decided that snowy January that the only logical way to handle the unexpected turn of events was to marry my boyfriend, a...
by AnnSheybani | Jan 7, 2013 | books, Chicken Back Syndrom, connection, eating disorders, Honesty, people pleasing, rage, recovery, Secrets, voice
At some point in your life you need to accept that your feelings are as credible and important, more so, than those of your loved ones. When you ignore your feelings, your desires, they turn into secret rage. Rage turned inward begets all sorts of nasty things. ...
