by AnnSheybani | Aug 18, 2014 | assertiveness, Authenticity, coaching, Confidence, confrontation, Courage, expectations, Life, limiting beliefs, misinterpretation, people pleasing, risk, Self-Esteem, self-sabotage
I have a coaching client named Bill. No surprises here, Bill’s a people-pleaser, a real nice guy. You’d love him. (He’s single now, so if anybody out there is looking for a nice guy, let me know.) Once upon a time, Bill was working as an accountant at a mid-sized...
by AnnSheybani | Apr 21, 2014 | change, coaching, Courage, divorce, Fearless Living, Life, marriage, Motivation, reinvention, route finding, self-sabotage, Starting Over
I received a note the other day from a woman who has flirted with the idea of coaching for nearly two years. She’s sent me several letters during this time and in each and every one she recounts the same sad story about living with her deadbeat boyfriend, how...
by AnnSheybani | Apr 6, 2014 | Alcoholic rules, books, coaching, expectations, Honesty, Life, limiting beliefs, manipulation, rage, self-sabotage, Shift The World, Steve Chandler, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome
My mom was the queen of expectations. Despite being very helpful to me, particularly when my kids were young, her acts of service always came with an unspoken price tag. Our relationship suffered because she expected me to do whatever she ‘expected’ of me...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 24, 2014 | A Love Story, books, Codependency, Confidence, Financial Health, Kate Northrup, Reading, Self-Esteem, self-sabotage
Here in Ireland I read incessantly. No sooner than I finish one book, I scan the bookshelves and grab another. For the last ten days I’ve been in total bliss, until I ran into this little number, which really pulled me up short. Walt must have bought Money, A...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 25, 2013 | coaching, Confidence, Courage, Date with Destiny, desire, expectations, growing up, identity, misinterpretation, people pleasing, Self-Esteem, self-sabotage, Tony Robbins
Want to hear something freaking fascinating? The more you invest in yourself, the more others are willing to invest in you. When you take yourself seriously, others do the same. Cheaping out on yourself isn’t noble; it’s flimsy camouflage for low self-esteem. My...
by AnnSheybani | Jan 18, 2013 | forgiveness, grace, guilt, identity, limiting beliefs, Self love, self-sabotage, Ted Talk
Like a lot of overachievers, I hold myself to impossible standards. It’s bought me a lot in life: it’s also created gratuitous stress. This morning, even before my eyes snapped open, I began rehashing all the things I’d done wrong the day before,...
