by AnnSheybani | Jun 30, 2013 | Boundaries, Dan Brown, nice girl complex, parenting, people pleasing, plot, Saying no, tension, Writing, writing lessons
What if uncertainty and tension and confrontation were good things? How might your life improve if you used them as tools? If you stopped running away from them and recognized them as a fantabulous forces for change? I was giving a creative writing lecture last...
by AnnSheybani | Apr 22, 2013 | people pleasing, Saying no
People often ask me how I choose my post topics each week. Most of the time I’ll be going about my business and something someone says or does will make me think, WTF? This week I’ve been bumping into an inordinate amount of people who can’t say...
by AnnSheybani | Apr 1, 2013 | connection, desire, identity, introvert, Ireland, people pleasing, reinvention, running, Secrets
I want to give you a beauty secret I’ve recently discovered. The single element that will make heads turn, regardless of your weight, age, or ability to pull together a decent outfit. The secret is Joy. Walt and I were at The Sunken Garden Poetry Festival last...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 25, 2013 | coaching, Confidence, Courage, Date with Destiny, desire, expectations, growing up, identity, misinterpretation, people pleasing, Self-Esteem, self-sabotage, Tony Robbins
Want to hear something freaking fascinating? The more you invest in yourself, the more others are willing to invest in you. When you take yourself seriously, others do the same. Cheaping out on yourself isn’t noble; it’s flimsy camouflage for low self-esteem. My...
by AnnSheybani | Mar 11, 2013 | climbing lessons, expectations, mountain climbing, people pleasing, risk, route finding
Do you give up at the first sign of trouble? Are you thrown by even the tiniest bump in the road? So, I was ice climbing in New Hampshire this past weekend. If you’ve never ice climbed before, picture a group of 10 or so men and women in puffy jackets, plastic...
by AnnSheybani | Feb 4, 2013 | Boundaries, Cultural Issues, exotic cultures, expectations, Iran, misinterpretation, people pleasing, Saying no
We make commitments to others in order to appear nice, and then we kick ourselves when they are inconsiderate enough to take us at our word. When I lived in Iran I often found myself irritated by tarof, traditional Iranian etiquette. Stopping by someone’s home...
