I’m a big proponent of turning your mess into your message.  And I think Monica Lewinsky’s recent Ted Talk is a wonderful example of turning one’s most shameful moment into a powerful call to action.

Think about it.  What are you hiding?  What story could you tell that would totally alter the way people view their world? What do you understand that they don’t?

The minute you start owning your experiences–both good and bad–the minute you can own the goddamned room.